Childhood Trauma Effect on Adult Relationships

Childhood Trauma Effect on Adult Relationships

Are you wondering about the childhood trauma effect on adult relationships? I often have couples who come in who can’t figure out the source of their problem. They bicker and don’t know why. Sex has dropped off but for no apparent reason. They aren’t on the same page, and unfortunately, it’s become the new norm. There hasn’t been any apparent infidelity or abuse. But the fact that there’s no major ‘issue’ to point to is even more frustrating. (more…)

Loneliness after Divorce: How It Impacts You and How You Can Overcome It

Loneliness after Divorce: How It Impacts You and How You Can Overcome It

Are you struggling with loneliness after divorce? The entire process of divorce is lonely. It often feels like singlehandedly carrying all of the responsibilities in the world while having an open gunshot wound, with no sign of a surgeon to fix it. And all of this loneliness leads to some pretty destructive choices. They usually involve alcohol, maybe some recreational drugs, random sex and spending money on things you do not need. But none if it works. Not for longer than a few hours. And then you crash. And feel like shit. And deeply alone. (more…)

Life After Divorce: How Did This Happen to Me?

Life After Divorce: How Did This Happen to Me?

You make ask yourself, how did this happen to me? I have spoken to a lot of people in the throes of divorce or trying to rebuild their life after divorce. One of the struggles I hear over and over again is the disbelief that this is where life has taken them, whether it’s the person who never got to start a family or the single parent having to figure it all out on their own; starting over sucks. (more…)

Is Your Marriage on This List? Top 5 Signs of a Failed Marriage

Is Your Marriage on This List? Top 5 Signs of a Failed Marriage

If you’re like most people, failure doesn’t make it onto your ‘to do’ list, and you prefer to avoid it at all costs. As a maven of all things relationships, I thought you might appreciate my perspective from over a decade of work with struggling couples. Whether you are looking to divorce-proof your marriage or validate your fear that ‘its over.’ Here are the top signs of a failed marriage according to this Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  (more…)

Top Seven Signs of Toxic and Unhealthy Relationships

Top Seven Signs of Toxic and Unhealthy Relationships

You’re not happy, and you want to know if what you are experiencing are legit signs of an unhealthy relationship. And it feels scary even to be researching this topic. Because typing the words into google and reading the results make it real. Too real. But something else is bothering you. You doubt yourself, and you feel a bit guilty. Explore the seven signs of unhealthy relationships below to overcome and create healthy relationships with the people around you that matter. (more…)