Choosing Love over Hate, Anger, Frustration and Depression

face of a woman in front of a city silhouette, choosing love in a troubled worldAre you choosing love? The world has problems. Biiiiig ones. Problems which seem impossible to scale. Gun violence, racism, sexual assault, climate change, bigotry, hate crimes, untreated mental health, tribalism, a culture of judgement and entitlement.

Love is patient.

Love is kind.

It is not envy. It is not boast.

Love is …

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How to Cope with Fear and Violence

woman looking up through a hole in the ceiling, learn how to cope with fear and violenceViolence, destruction and fear are ripping apart the fabric of our lives. The important thing to understand is WE are equally culpable for the destruction we face. To cope with fear and the dangers of living; we must change our response.

Whether it is domestic violence, terrorism or street crime your most powerful choices involve managing your fear response. Violent and aggressive people are looking for power and control. They want you to feel debilitating fear – it shifts the power to their advantage. (more…)

How Coping with Anger Helps You to Face Your Feelings and Create Greater Health

players in a game, representing anger is sad's offense, coping with angerThe term offense comes from the Latin ‘offensa’: striking against hurt or displeasure. It is the action of attacking. This is what anger does. Anger is a weapon that we use to protect us from emotional discomfort. Sad is a vulnerable, ugly teared gut wrenching immobilizing feeling. Anger does its dirty work. Sad isn’t satisfied with just being.

It wants to DO something; so, it enlists anger. The problem with exchanging sadness for anger is we have more conflict and less peace. We suddenly become in opposition. We tense with the desire to hurt, control or win.

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5 Clever Ways To Deal With Judgmental People

woman in front of a group of judgmental people, looking and talking about herAre you dealing with judgmental people? People who frequently express judgment are usually unaware of how damaging their words and behavior can be to others. Most people do not know the difference between expressing an opinion and rendering a judgment.

Judgment can show up as gossip, criticism, using the word “should”, labeling (i.e. right, wrong, good, bad) and the general practice of stating subjective information as fact.

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Coping with PTSD After a Natural Disaster

sail boats destroyed in the pier after hurricane Irma, coping with PTSD after a natural disasterCoping with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) after a catastrophic event: Having recently experienced hurricane Irma in the Florida Keys, I have a new vantage point on PTSD ((post-traumatic stress disorder) and natural disasters. I watched our community live in fear of Irma’s destruction in the days leading up to her arrival. We personified her – making her a target for our painful feelings. This was one way to cope with the powerlessness.

There were tears as people packed up and said goodbye to their homes. Children were asked to select their most cherished items. Many evacuated, some stayed.

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