When Family Hurts: 5 Ways to Improve Family Relationships

 parents fighting, child closes her ears with her hands, representing the topic when family hurts and 5 ways to improve family relationshipsI spent too many years hoping that my loved ones would acknowledge my pain and own their part. I have since learned that even receiving an apology is not enough to release the hurt.

To release hurt we have to let go of the need for the past or the present to be different.

If you can focus on these 5 things, you will experience more peace in your family relationships.

 

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How to Heal from a Divorce You Didn’t Want

Sad lady looking at her wedding band after an unwanted divorceSo you got divorced. Are you wondering how to heal from a divorce you didn’t want? It sucked. More than anything. Ever. I mean “What The H*!!”. You spent the majority of your adult life trying to make this marriage thing work. You put up with crap you didn’t love, but it was worth it to you. Having a family, a person and a life together mattered to you. And then, you got the news.
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How to Deal with Infidelity in a Marriage: Marriage Counseling Client Example

a husband with a lipstick mark on his shirt, how to deal with infidelity in a marriageHow to deal with infidelity in a marriage?
She had an affair. The husband called me desperate for help saving his marriage. They have children together.
He didn’t want to tear up his family. He felt completely out of control, grief-stricken and didn’t know what to believe.
She swore it wasn’t physical, but he just couldn’t accept that idea.

How to Deal with Infidelity in a Relationship When You Feel Scared, Overwhelmed and Judged

We spoke on the phone for quite a while. I knew he was scared and overwhelmed. I scheduled their initial couples counseling appointment and assured him there was a solution.

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How These Marriage Counseling Blogs Can Change Your Life Forever

open laptop with Dawn Wiggins Therapy marriage counseling's Key Largo and Boca Raton page open, symbolizing the power of marriage counseling blogsHow can marriage counseling blogs change your life? Because marriage is tough and you need tools. If you are getting married, you need to know. If you are married, you already know. I’m not trying to scare you.

I am actually a relationship optimist. With the proper tools and enough willingness, relationships can heal and thrive.

But do you have the proper tools? And do you have enough willingness?

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Forgiving Someone You Hate

two goats fighting with each other, symbolizing the challenge of forgiving someone you hateForgiving someone you hate is hard. Most people don’t enjoy the feeling of hatred.  It’s an intense feeling and a burden to carry. Hatred usually develops following severe or repetitive perception of betrayal. These days, a lot of people express hatred towards members of government.

I am frequently asked about forgiveness. People usually feel it’s a beautiful idea, but don’t know how.

 
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Top Reasons for Divorce

Top reasons for divorceThe top reasons for divorce are resentment, dishonesty, judgement, arrogance and insecurity. You may think arrogance and insecurity do not fit together. They actually go hand in hand. For some, arrogance is how they cope with insecurity. A divorce proof marriage has a strong foundation of unconditional love and acceptance. Let’s start at the beginning.

Do you know what your motive is for marriage?

Many would say … duh Dawn, I am motivated by love! Actually fear, family, religion, money and status are common motivators.

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