Loneliness after Divorce: How It Impacts You and How You Can Overcome It

Loneliness after Divorce: How It Impacts You and How You Can Overcome It

Are you struggling with loneliness after divorce? The entire process of divorce is lonely. It often feels like singlehandedly carrying all of the responsibilities in the world while having an open gunshot wound, with no sign of a surgeon to fix it. And all of this loneliness leads to some pretty destructive choices. They usually involve alcohol, maybe some recreational drugs, random sex and spending money on things you do not need. But none if it works. Not for longer than a few hours. And then you crash. And feel like shit. And deeply alone. (more…)

Life After Divorce: How Did This Happen to Me?

Life After Divorce: How Did This Happen to Me?

You make ask yourself, how did this happen to me? I have spoken to a lot of people in the throes of divorce or trying to rebuild their life after divorce. One of the struggles I hear over and over again is the disbelief that this is where life has taken them, whether it’s the person who never got to start a family or the single parent having to figure it all out on their own; starting over sucks. (more…)

When Family Hurts: 5 Ways to Improve Family Relationships

 parents fighting, child closes her ears with her hands, representing the topic when family hurts and 5 ways to improve family relationshipsI spent too many years hoping that my loved ones would acknowledge my pain and own their part. I have since learned that even receiving an apology is not enough to release the hurt.

To release hurt we have to let go of the need for the past or the present to be different.

If you can focus on these 5 things, you will experience more peace in your family relationships.

 

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How to Heal from a Divorce You Didn’t Want

Sad lady looking at her wedding band after an unwanted divorceSo you got divorced. Are you wondering how to heal from a divorce you didn’t want? It sucked. More than anything. Ever. I mean “What The H*!!”. You spent the majority of your adult life trying to make this marriage thing work. You put up with crap you didn’t love, but it was worth it to you. Having a family, a person and a life together mattered to you. And then, you got the news.
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How to Deal with Infidelity in a Marriage: Marriage Counseling Client Example

a husband with a lipstick mark on his shirt, how to deal with infidelity in a marriageHow to deal with infidelity in a marriage?
She had an affair. The husband called me desperate for help saving his marriage. They have children together.
He didn’t want to tear up his family. He felt completely out of control, grief-stricken and didn’t know what to believe.
She swore it wasn’t physical, but he just couldn’t accept that idea.

How to Deal with Infidelity in a Relationship When You Feel Scared, Overwhelmed and Judged

We spoke on the phone for quite a while. I knew he was scared and overwhelmed. I scheduled their initial couples counseling appointment and assured him there was a solution.

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