You have too much stress. You don’t want to adult anymore. Maybe you feel like you CAN’T adult anymore. Too many things have pressed down on you.
You can’t catch your breath or a break. You just want to be happy.
It’s a great idea but how are you going to do it? How are you going to find the sweet release of happiness?
How Do You Eliminate Your Stress?
Perhaps some of the solutions feel out of reach or like they will take too long. I have solutions for you. They require an open and flexible mind.
[bctt tweet=”You know what your problems are but you don’t know how to solve them. #stress”]
Control What You Can, Let Go of What You Cannot
The 2-part strategy (also found in the serenity prayer) is:
- Accept the things you cannot change and
- Change the things you can.
[bctt tweet=”You cannot change anyone around you but you can change yourself.”]
There are many ways to keep the focus on yourself, reduce your stress and find happiness. Make different choices.
Some of our greatest stressors are
- finances and
Somewhere in there you are avoiding an important choice.
You are probably refusing to cut spending, change your diet, stop arguing or find a new job.
You keep waiting for someone else to change, fix or realize something about themselves.
Stop Waiting and Start Taking Positive Action
There is a reason you struggle to take responsibility for your life and tend to blame others.
[bctt tweet=”Chances are making different choices feels hard to you.”]
For some reason, you don’t feel capable. You …
- start and then give up or get knocked down.
- lack motivation or follow through.
- struggle with painful feelings that seem to take over at the worst times.
There is a solution for that also.
Have you heard that you create your own happiness?
Well, that’s true. In the NPR Invisibilia podcast about emotions, we learn that emotions are based on past experiences and the beliefs we create from them.
[bctt tweet=”If you want to change how you feel, you need to change your beliefs. #howtobehappy”]
It’s literally possible to believe that life is easy, beautiful and full of opportunity.
If you don’t feel this way and you are arguing with me in your mind; it’s time to let go and change your perspective.
You Don’t Need to Convince Me About How Much Stress You Have
[bctt tweet=”You don’t need me to understand your pain. #lettinggo”]
Let go of trying to change how I think, and focus on your mind. When other people’s thoughts and choices create stress, it’s time to practice acceptance.
- You have no control over anyone but yourself.
- Abandon your expectations of others.
- Consider that “fair” is a concept that perpetuates your stress.
- Instead of longing for things to be fair, focus on what YOU can do to improve your life.
- Open to the idea that you are entitled to anything you create for yourself.
You can create suffering or joy. Or you can create faith or fear.
[bctt tweet=”Look past your thoughts so you can drink the pure nectar of this moment. -Rumi.”]
If you would like help eliminating stress and embracing happiness, call me at my Boca Raton or Key Largo therapy office at (561) 221-5575 or fill out my on the house consult and we will find your win-win.
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