Are you struggling with loneliness after divorce? The entire process of divorce is lonely. It often feels like singlehandedly carrying all of the responsibilities in the world while having an open gunshot wound, with no sign of a surgeon to fix it. And all of this loneliness leads to some pretty destructive choices. They usually involve alcohol, maybe some recreational drugs, random sex and spending money on things you do not need. But none if it works. Not for longer than a few hours. And then you crash. And feel like shit. And deeply alone. (more…)
You make ask yourself, how did this happen to me? I have spoken to a lot of people in the throes of divorce or trying to rebuild their life after divorce. One of the struggles I hear over and over again is the disbelief that this is where life has taken them, whether it’s the person who never got to start a family or the single parent having to figure it all out on their own; starting over sucks. (more…)
Do you celebrate life, everyday? This week, I am reflecting on 2018. It has been a year of opportunity and change for each of us. Admittedly, transitions can be painful. However, along with change comes the possibility of growth. Change brings both loss and renewal. And, for those of you who struggle with letting go, the year has felt challenging. While those developing a greater comfort with acceptance, 2018 has been more enjoyable. (more…)
Are you dealing with uncertainty in relationships? The feeling of not knowing what will happen next is one of the most unsettling human sensations. We get all in our feelings and imagine the worst possible outcomes. We try to walk ourselves back from the edge of panic, but find that it’s like trying to move in quicksand. (more…)
You have been trying to figure out how to get over infidelity pain and just can’t find relief. The feelings of betrayal and disgust are overwhelming. The mere idea that you are in pain and can’t make it stop adds to your rage. You carry the fear that it’s was all for nothing, and that you are helpless to create a change. (more…)
I spent too many years hoping that my loved ones would acknowledge my pain and own their part. I have since learned that even receiving an apology is not enough to release the hurt.
To release hurt we have to let go of the need for the past or the present to be different.
If you can focus on these 5 things, you will experience more peace in your family relationships.