Did you worry about how to balance your life? Perhaps you know this infamous clip from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. Veruca Salt is well known for her impatience. If you’ve met me, you know the Veruca Salt side of me is alive and well. And, it’s also been tempered by a harsh taste of reality, therapy, and self-help groups, LOL.
How to Balance Your Life When You Are in Pain
Patience is hard.
Especially when we are in pain.
Emotional and Physical Pain Are the Same
Did you know the brain doesn’t really know the difference between emotional and physical pain?
Veruca represents the rebellious part of us that can’t delay gratification.
Gratification relieves the pain … temporarily. The problem: it is not a long-term solution.
The rebellious part doesn’t want to wait for wisdom or insight. And, refuses to be disappointed ever again.
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Some of you could channel a bit more of Veruca.
Perhaps you’re too patient. Maybe you’ve become passive. Painful experiences have led you to settle, avoid or withdraw from your wants and needs.
The trick is to find the sweet spot of balance.
Balance comes when we release our anxiety, resentment, and expectations.
The spot where we are moving with purpose. Not stuck and not urgent. The middle place where we can speak clearly and hear clearly. The place where you want may not be what you need. A place where there is a willingness to consider things outside of your comfort zone.
- Start by ID’ing the camp you tend to land in. Impatient or inactive.
- Then start planning to make a move to the middle.
- Explore your limitations. (It’s usually fear.) Fear of failing, rejection, or of being alone forever.
- Trade your fear for a plan. A plan with wisdom and purpose.
If you need some help, give a shout. Just don’t give up.
You can’t always get what you want. But, if you try sometimes, you get what you need. ~The Rolling Stones