If you are looking for love advice, you have probably experienced heartbreak. You may be struggling in your current relationship or dipping your toe in the waters of dating. Most people don’t look for advice until things have gone wrong.
I know that has been true for me.
I used to attempt success without asking for help. When life became painful enough, I succumbed to reality – I needed help. I learned the hard way that asking for help is a less painful approach to life.
Historically, I wasn’t humble enough to ask for love advice. I was too afraid that my reality would shatter. I was too afraid to be honest. I was too afraid to be vulnerable. I was too afraid he would leave and I was too afraid to walk away.
Are You Open Enough To Listen To Love Advice?
If only I had been willing to entertain love advice. Not just listening while feigning interest. Not just listening to defend my position and strengthen my argument. Not listening to just anyone – listening to experts.
After a series of epic love failures, I wanted to learn what I was doing wrong. To take responsibility for my choices.
Here are some things that I have learned about love.
Love is complex.
It functions differently in the beginning, middle and end. If you don’t know or understand love, it’s pretty hard to sustain it.
True love (in the romantic sense) is achieved and sustained through 3 major components.
If you want to enjoy your relationship and ensure that it lasts, you need to know what they are. This piece of love advice can be the game changer in any relationship.
Commitment, Intimacy, and Passion
Commitment
Commitment is about unconditional acceptance.
It’s the component that calls for fidelity, non-judgement and unwavering dedication. Don’t get me wrong, there are deal breakers. If you are unsafe in your relationship – physically or emotionally; it’s not a good idea to stay.
In the course of your relationship, your partner is going to seem unlikable. This is absolutely normal.
The trick is to navigate those times and not give up, bail out or blame your partner.
Intimacy
What is Intimacy? It’s all about honesty, openness and vulnerability.
It thrives when there is trust and confidence. In my experience, fear of rejection is one of the biggest blocks to intimacy. We would rather feel accepted than judged so we fake it.
Well, if you aren’t authentic, you cannot achieve intimacy. Yes, fessing up or sharing your true self is risky. So is withholding.
Withholding leads to feelings of isolation, anger and dissatisfaction.
Passion
Passion is about desire, excitement and fun.
How many times have we heard about the stale relationship?
The sexless, monotonous, boring relationship.
Passion isn’t just about sex. It’s about the ability to feel joy and express it both individually and as a couple. Many couples take for granted that their partner will stay when there is no passion.
Whatever excuse or justification you are using to avoid this issue is not serving you.
Check in with yourself and your relationship. Are all 3 components present?
If not, it’s time for help. There is a solution.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself or your partner by expecting to know something you’ve never learned.
- Set up your on the house consult to figure out what steps you can take next.
- It doesn’t matter if you are near or far, I will come to you! I can see you in Boca Raton, Key Largo or Online.
Just reach out to me! Give me a call at (561) 221-5575 so I can help you!
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