How to Tell if You are Falling Out of Love

An image of a couple holding hands whose reflection is getting lost in a puddle, falling out of loveYou want to know how to tell if you are falling out of love. I get it. I’ve been divorced and remarried and the divorce part sucked. Part of my healing journey was to figure out how we fell out of love. I wanted to prevent it from happening in my next relationship! Most of us want our relationships to be ‘forever’. But maintaining forever can be pretty challenging. (more…)

How to Bring Intimacy Back Into a Relationship

Young woman lies on a bed and smiles seductively with her hair about her face how to bring intimacy back into a relationshipYou want to know how to bring intimacy back into a relationship, and you’ve figured out that it can be hard. You’ve already beat yourself up about waiting too long to work on it. You feel overwhelmed, hurt and angry that your partner isn’t as motivated as you are. You are looking for answers and tools that will give you some hope; because you don’t want to give up. I am going to teach you a specific thing you are doing that interrupts intimacy and some things you can do to improve it.   (more…)

How to Get Over Infidelity Pain – Accepting the Unacceptable

woman holding her hands, she is wearing a diamond ring, how to get over infidelity pain, accepting the unacceptableYou have been trying to figure out how to get over infidelity pain and just can’t find relief. The feelings of betrayal and disgust are overwhelming. The mere idea that you are in pain and can’t make it stop adds to your rage. You carry the fear that it’s was all for nothing, and that you are helpless to create a change. (more…)

What It Takes to Be Vulnerable in a Relationship

Being vulnerable in a relationship brings out a couple’s true essence. A couple who invests in individual and collaborative vulnerability is exponentially more likely to beat the odds. I recently spoke with Mike Allebach, a photographer from PA. He specializes in boudoir photography; a unique way to express vulnerability in a relationship! I was excited to connect with him because I believe he has something special to offer couples and relationships. He also has the great honor of witnessing and capturing vulnerability and connection in his work.  (more…)

Marriage is Hard – What are You Willing to Surrender?

Married couple holding the palms of their hands together, marriage is hardMarriage is hard. We all want a happy marriage. We believe we are willing to do what it takes to make it work. We go with our loved ones to the therapist and want change, change for the better. And then the therapist asks us to change something we love, something we view as important, something we hold close. But, change is hard because we want to change what we want to change, not what we need to. I realized this myself the other day. (more…)

Fighting for Your Marriage: I Stormed Off Heading for the Parking Lot …

a couple outside, staying in front of each other, are you fighting for your marriage, I do every dayAre you fighting for your marriage? I do every day. Here is a glimpse into my marriage last weekend: It was a typical Saturday grocery run. The fam and I had wandered every aisle and were ready to check out. We picked aisle 6, patiently waiting behind another shopper before unloading our cart onto the conveyor belt. I proceeded to get lost in thought (a common occurrence) while reading magazine covers. I looked up and suddenly realized my people were no longer with me, and some strange lady was looking at me like, yo, are you going to move? (more…)