How to Empower Others – A Day in the Life of a Therapist

open book where two pages shape a heart, symbolizing how to empower othersHow to empower others? People often ask my husband what it’s like to live with and be married to a therapist. His typical response is “we talk a lot.” I used to get pretty touchy about it. Always afraid that people would think I’m analyzing them. It makes some people really uncomfortable. The truth is, I am analyzing most of the time. I have come to accept that this is part of being in a relationship with me. What people come to learn is that while I am analyzing, I’m rarely judging. That being said, most experiences turn into scientific observations, teaching opportunities or thoughtful philosophical dialogue. (more…)

What You Can Do if You’re Afraid a Child is Being Abused

the hand of a man, grabbing after something, what you can do if you’re afraid a child is being abusedDid you ever have this feeling that you were afraid a child is being abused? A friend reached out for advice this week.

They wanted guidance about how to handle a sensitive situation. They were concerned about a child in their community. They were fearful that the child’s behavior was evidence of abuse. They literally asked me “is this evidence of abuse”?

Legally, I couldn’t answer the question.

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How to Overcome Self Esteem Issues as a Mom

mom in a black background, how to overcome self esteem issues as a momDo you have self esteem issues as a mom? I often struggle to keep my parenting insecurities in check. It feels like a constant internal struggle for my daughter’s approval. I swear she loves my husband more.

When she wants someone else more than me, the ugly jealousy monster arrives on the scene.

This has all been exacerbated by my weekly work commute since moving to Key Largo in the Florida Keys this year.

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Father’s Day Thoughts From A Daughter – Thanks and Gratitude

Dawn Wiggins with her dad on her wedding day, father's day thoughts of a daughterFather’s day can be tough for many. For those who have lost a child or parent, are not able to have children or are estranged from their loved ones; my heart opens to you.

Father’s day is a great time to check your relationship status.

Is it growing barnacles, run aground, on fire or smooth sailing?

My own relationship with my father has grown and changed over the years. He is the same with me as he is with everyone. Generous, passionate, brilliant, moody and stubborn. And he is head over heels in love with my daughter, Grace.

I believe he works every day to do it better than his dad. For that, I am grateful.

 

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Relationship Blame Game

Bblamelame. A weapon we grab when we are out of emotional options. It’s the voice in your head that tells you it’s not your fault. The voice that is grasping for a reason. It’s an escape tunnel, except it leads nowhere.

Brene Brown tells us that “blame is a way to discharge pain and discomfort”.

What she means is when we feel panicked, angry or betrayed, we try to make the pain stop. One of the ways we try to interrupt emotional discomfort is to blame someone else.

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