How to Heal from a Divorce You Didn’t Want

Sad lady looking at her wedding band after an unwanted divorceSo you got divorced. Are you wondering how to heal from a divorce you didn’t want? It sucked. More than anything. Ever. I mean “What The H*!!”. You spent the majority of your adult life trying to make this marriage thing work. You put up with crap you didn’t love, but it was worth it to you. Having a family, a person and a life together mattered to you. And then, you got the news.
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Don’t Compare Yourself to Others – Don’t Believe the Hype

woman sitting on hill, overseeing the city, don't compare yourself to othersDon’t compare yourself to others. I know, it’s hard. We live in a comparison culture. Better or worse, fast or slow, skinny or fat, pretty or ugly, in or out.

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt

The problem with comparing is it leads us down a road of unachievable happiness.

No matter how hard I work, my life will never measure up to yours. It’s literally impossible. Sure, maybe I can earn as much or lose as much weight or my kid can get the same grades but it will never match up. (more…)

How to Deal with Infidelity in a Marriage: Marriage Counseling Client Example

a husband with a lipstick mark on his shirt, how to deal with infidelity in a marriageHow to deal with infidelity in a marriage?
She had an affair. The husband called me desperate for help saving his marriage. They have children together.
He didn’t want to tear up his family. He felt completely out of control, grief-stricken and didn’t know what to believe.
She swore it wasn’t physical, but he just couldn’t accept that idea.

How to Deal with Infidelity in a Relationship When You Feel Scared, Overwhelmed and Judged

We spoke on the phone for quite a while. I knew he was scared and overwhelmed. I scheduled their initial couples counseling appointment and assured him there was a solution.

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How to Deal with Insecurity in a Relationship: Marriage Counseling Client Example

a couple kissing each other, how to deal with insecurity in a relationshipHow to deal with insecurity in a relationship? They wouldn’t stop bickering. That was the crux of the voicemail beckoning my help in the form of marriage counseling. Returning the call, I understood my clients needed help, and our introductory 90-minute therapy session was on the books. I could feel the apprehension as our session began. I congratulated my clients on their collectively agreed upon decision to see a marriage therapist. Some would say that alone is a breakthrough … Read this example marriage counselor Dawn Wiggins shares about a couple who is dealing with marriage problems including insecurity, rejection, lack of trust, and how she helped them.  (more…)