Vulnerability is the sensation of complete exposure with no obvious source of protection. We sometimes hear folks refer to vulnerability as ‘taking a risk’.
For example, sharing a shameful secret and not knowing how you will be received.
Or crying in front of someone else.
Maybe even initiating sex with your partner; knowing you could be rejected.
Why Does Vulnerability Feel so Difficult?
And, why is it important to do these things?
Because they are opportunities to be fully, truly and un-apologetically YOU.
You are Trained to Avoid Vulnerability…
Training begins at an early age. Being told how to think, feel and act; therefore, suppressing vulnerability.
- ‘Do what I tell you’,
- ‘Crying is weakness’,
- ‘Weakness is unacceptable’,
- ‘Don’t air your dirty laundry’,
blah blah blah.
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Of course the lessons we learn throughout life are important. However, we can become too rigid. Forgetting our own deeply rooted sense of self.
We Avoid Being Ourselves …
When we move through life avoiding vulnerability, we are essentially avoiding ourselves. Consequently, we are prioritizing fitting in over shining bright.
Instead, I want to know you. Deeply know you. Who you are is the most valuable thing you can share.
- I don’t care if you’re nice or agreeable or well mannered.
- I don’t care how much money you make or what your job is.
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I wan’t to know what makes you tick. What drives you. What ignites passion and what scares the daylights out of you.
Feeling Vulnerable is Scary
Vulnerability is one of the scariest and most rewarding gifts we can give ourselves. A path to connecting with and learning about our true nature. From that place of self awareness springs choice, empowerment, creativity and joy.
How will you do vulnerability this week?
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