What happens if you can’t cope with feeling rejected? Feeling rejected is a kind of hell on earth. The feelings can hurt so much, you’re not sure it can get better. Why does it hurt so bad and what can we do about it?
Rejection is a completely normal human experience. It’s one of those things that no one will escape. If we know it’s going to happen, why is it so hard to cope with?
You may be feeling rejected by your partner, parent, friend or colleague. It’s time to learn how to cope. If you don’t change your perspective, rejection will SWALLOW YOU UP!
Why Feeling Rejected Hurts So Bad
For some strange reason, we are taught to avoid rejection.
Family members, media and social pressures tell us we need to be likable and accepted. We are systematically trained to gain approval of others. This often begins early in life and is reinforced over time.
Can you relate to any of these?
- If you love me you will do this for me
- Checking how many likes you got on your last profile pic
- People like pretty girls
- If she doesn’t like you, you’re not man enough
- Good children love their parents and always prioritize family
- Doing bad things has eternal consequences
- Men need to be breadwinners
- If you didn’t go to college something is wrong with you
Each of these examples represent an expectation.
When you don’t meet the expectation, the threat is rejection.
The pain of rejection, when you feel you can’t cope with feeling rejected, is such a powerful motivator that we keep trying to meet the expectation. Before you know it, you are a slave to other peoples expectations and you may not even know it.
What To Do If You Can’t Cope With Feeling Rejected
Coping with rejection means letting go of constantly meeting outside expectations.
You have to be willing to base your self worth on something other than approval from others.
Answer this question:
- Do you like everyone you’ve ever met?
Of course not!
So why are you working soooo hard to get everyone to like you?
Believe it or not, it’s pretty common for families, co-workers and spouses to not like each other.
You have to decide which of these relationships are a priority. You also need to decide when it’s time to stay and when it’s time to go.
- If you want to be free from the PAIN of rejection you need to ACCEPT the reality of rejection.
- It’s OK to get rejected and it’s OK to reject others.
I have a great tool to gauge your relationship with rejection.
- Ask yourself how often you say “yes” when you want to say “no”.
- Then ask yourself how often you expect others to say “yes” even though they may want to say “no”.
- Once you accept feeling rejection is normal it’s time to address your self worth.
- Figure out why you are feeling so shitty about yourself.
- Start putting emphasis on meeting your personal best.
- Redefine personal success based on your own goals, dreams and beliefs.
- Practice interrupting old behaviors that are approval based.
- Surround yourself with people who are authentic, loving and patient.
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